One of my daughters is back home at the moment and now wants to be online on the computer as much as I do. It is fabulous having her home, but my time on MyLot has gone down big time in the last few days, so apologies to all my friends if I haven't been responding as much as usual but I have to allow her her time on another site to talk to her friends too. How do I get the balance right? I have even considered getting a laptop and going wireless so we both can use at same time. Does this happen in your household and if so how do you compromise? Please share. Ellie :D
[question posted by ellie333]
responses and comments:
Hi there! I think that buying a laptop is a good idea. It would let you both be on the internet as long as you want. [nanayangel]
It is her birthday next month so may look out for one for her and then if she has her own whether here or not she can take with and use wherever she is staying eh! Thank you for your response. Ellie:D [ellie333]
well, you are slightly luckier than me. I have to wrestle the computer with my 3 eldest children. They need it for project work, chat discussions, play games and you know what stuff kids get into these days. What I did is that, apart from cooking, I spend the whole morning on the computer. When they get from school in the afternoon and evening, they will take turns to surf. Then, I'll do all my house chores during that time. I can even surf a few hours at night when they go to sleep at 10. Purchasing a laptop is another great way too. [x7heavens]
Oh yes I am lucky to only have to wrestle with one other for computer time, but had got used to being able to use just for me. Last night I got home from work early and she went to bed not long after so I spent an hour then and she is at work this morning so I am online now. We'll work it out. Ellie :D [ellie333]
It does happen with my sister 3 years ago when we had only 1 computer. It's really quite annoying when both of us want to use it at the same time, specially if we need to get both our homework done in the computer. What my parents just did was bought another computer, and it had really been worth it. It's now more convenient to the both of us. Right now my mom bought her own laptop to use it for office work. I really suggest buying another computer, however if your actually planning on saving. I suggest taking turns, if you had been in the computer all day, then it's just right to let your daughter have a chat with her friends unless you really need the computer badly. [DevilHands]
Excellent idea but I think she prefers just chatting online through msn with her mates, but I could run it by her, give her a little bit extra too eh! Ellie :D [ellie333]
I thought that had responded to this a few days ago. But I see that I couldn't have. Apart from violence I think that you have to work out a share rota. She gets early mornings, and mid evenings (oh, asleep first thing out with her friends later. Sorry love you can't have everything in life) and you get the rest of the day. Ellie my dear, you need wifi and a laptop I think. Give her the laptop. The keyboard's a menace to use, you can't get comfy using it to type. Whilst you can sit up at the table, back straight, sensibly sized screen the right distance away and use a proper keyboard. Problem solved. (apart from the £500 to equip yourself). [p1kef1sh]
I thought that I was having a senior moment. Good idea; and you'll get the computer back. Got to go. I have been doing the washing this morning and I want to post a discussion about socks. [p1kef1sh]
Hi there, in my house we have more computers than people, so we have never had that problem, so i dont know, maybe getting another cheap laptop for her when she comes, that way you can both go on it. Chris [chris1314]
Wow lucky you! Yes think the laptop is the way to go, her birthday coming up next month so might sort one out for then and she can take it with then. Ellie :D [ellie333]
i understand your situation. let maintain a time chart between the persons who are online at home. so that you can be well maintained. its good idea to have laptop with wireless. [subha12]
The laptop is the way to go I think finances allowing, her birthday soon so may do for then but meanwhile we'll share. Ellie :D [ellie333]
I have a wireless laptop, but I don't recommend it for using for hours at a time. Great for an hour or so, but it is not ergonomically designed for long term use. Daughter should get her own anyway. Is she a tax dodger? [Scoop_Dogg]
Ooops already mentioned earlier about the getting home from work bit, sorry, thanks by the way for the good mum bit, appreciated. What are you after then, if I had a Magic wand I'd help everyone as you know. Ellie :D [ellie333]
yes, i have also the same as you, and we always got a fight for it, so i decided to allow him 2 hrs..if he study his lesson and thats i can get in.. [marketing07]
Its frustrating isn't it but they do need to do homework as that is very important. Thats what I'm doing now while she is at work I'm online he he Ellie :D [ellie333]
wow, are you for real???? :p when i had to share the net with my father it was a constant fight...even when he got a router for wireless he just didnt allow me to stay as long as i wanted...i mean we had at that point two computers and two connections...ah well anyway yes laptop and wireless seems a nice idea...otherwise you can take shifts...like she gets online at some hour, and you at others..i had tried to do taht with my father, but he said he was not going to let me rule him *rolleyes* it was actually to avoid fights but...ah well...anyway i guess a cheap laptop could work *nods* [JoMarch]
Oh yes I'm for real afterall if it wasn't for my girls I would never have got online in the first place, they were the ones that introduced me to it. In fact when my eldest went off to Australia in her gap year and we thought it would be a good idea to stay in connect via email as phoning all the time would work out expensive. It is my younger daughters birthday next month so finances allowing may get her her own laptop then, will have to look out for a bargain one eh! Ellie :D [ellie333]
Yes,I also have the same experiences which I want to shell with you. I am in my college apartment, and my roommates and I use the same web net.it needs compromise to work toghter peaceful,and happily.The costs of the web will be spared with one of us. [zhangqweqaz]
I think now u got answer of your question... [sumit31]
realistically you'll extract the deposite and buy a new laptop.it is the best way to solve the problem forever. [victorjc]
Yes I think getting a laptop is the way to go. Ellie :D [ellie333]
realistically you need draw out your despoite and buy a new laptop.this is the best way to solve the problem forever. [victorjc]
Hi you manged to somehow post response twice, I did that once too and do not know how but thank you for your response. It is appreciated. Ellie :D [ellie333]
Lap top is great idea, and perfect solution for your situation. It would be perfect for my too, but unfortunately I have to wait a little longer till lap top comes to a top of my priorities' list.:) Sometimes my son is hanging around my neck, waiting for me to finish so he could play his Chicken Invaders or whatever. I had some other stuff that I am doing on line and it takes time, and my boy just can't wait.:) I bet your girl is like that, just can't wait.:) No need to apologize, I think most of us understand. [Natrak]
Yes laptop perfect solution, but like you other things must come first, but it is her birthday next month so will work out the finances and see if perhaps I can get one for her then, they have gone down in price a great deal her in UK so may find a bargain, unitl then will share. Oh that would annoy me I don't like people over my shoulder when I'm doing something, not just at the computer either, but yes she is very much like that also. Ellie :D [ellie333]
Well when I seen this it certainly sounded exactly what we were going through in our house a couple of months ago. I owned a laptop years ago and went travelling so gave it to my Mum and little sister who were not really that bothered with it and when I came back and moved home the laptop gave up on us anyway. My sister had been downloading music from a really bad site so the thing was riddled with viruses. Mum and I split in for a new PC and we really did pay half each. So my Mum wanted some entertainment one night so I showed her how to play Literati, then my sister discovered mySpace and I had myLot. For ages we just shared the one computer but it was like someone was always wanting on and you felt like you HAD to come off when you had been on for an hour. My mum loves her Literati and now her messenger is full of friends that she looks out for being online so she can play against them so she decided to buy us a laptop between us off of eBay for 200 quid. Basically we kind of got ripped off cos the harddrive was failing and I had to pay 75 pound to replace it but now we do have the two. Me and Emma share the laptop. If my Mum is in then we are not allowed to use the PC but it works out fine for us cos Emma has to go to bed at 10pm and I like to stay up late anyway and I work all weekend so I can go on mostly when I want and vice versa. Getting a second computer was definately the best thing that we ever done. [killahclaire]
I have just found out that it is 80GB and is windows vista too so think I got a really good deal. Yes she will be so made up bless her as she knows I haven't got the money to just go out and buy a present like that so it will be so unexpected. I can't wait to see her face when it arrives. I also found out though completely unrelated that the area of Glasgow some of my step-fathers relatives live is Lockdockart Road in Easterhouse area, don't know whether that near you or not. Ellie :D [ellie333]
Yeah everybody needs to go online nowadays. We sometimes have conflicts here at home too. I give way to them when what I plan to do is not that urgent. But when it's time for me to do stock trading, which is my source of income, I really put my foot down that I need to use the computer and Internet connection at that time. Getting a laptop and a wireless router would be a good solution to this problem. [wisedragon]
Yes I have decided the laptop wireless router is the best way to go and literally in the last few minutes have upgraded to wireless and have also managed to get a laptop included in the package. This will take about 10 days to organise so we will have to share til then and it also means my daughter will have her own laptop for her birthday bless. Yippee. Thank you for responding. Ellie :D [ellie333]
We have 3 laptops and 3 stationary computers plus wireless network. I have always computer for house guests. My work depends on computers. I have one computer not connected to internet for company files. You are invited...lol [polachicago]
Wow thats a lot of computers, have just organised a few minutes ago an upgrade to wireless which includes a laptop which I will give to my daughter for her birthday so everyone will be happy within the next 10 days, which is time I have to wait. Meanwhile we will have to share, which I'm sure we will be able to do. Ps: Thanks for invite, I'm on my way to you til then. LOL Ellie :D [ellie333]
I have two boys that love to get on the computer and chat...I get on the computer while their in school...Then when they get home they can have it for a couple of hours..That way I can get some cleaning done and fix supper..I know its hard....My husband has a laptop, so when hes home I don't have to worry about sharing... [queenofarms]
edit 10 days, LOL my head thinks faster than my typing oops. Ellie :D [ellie333]
Yes, ellie333, I daughter share as well - Some days are better then others - I think a laptop is a great idea - hey maybe there is a buy one - get one free somewhere we could split :) (lol) Have a great day. [Herbyjan]
Well if I do find a buy one get one free I might be tempted to get myself a laptop so will let you have the extra, how about that, don't seriously think that will happen and shipping costs to you will probably cost as much but lovely thought eh! LOL Ellie :D [ellie333]
Hello ellie333: I know your feeling.It's very difficult to deal with.Though frinds id important,you should think more about your daughter.We all can understant you ,but suppose she couldn't. [lishiwei]
Hi I have been shopping around this afternoon and have found a great package so she will now have a laptop for her birthday and we will have wireless internet so we can both go on together. Ellie:D [ellie333]
I can't say this has happened at our house with the computer- but it did happen with a tv, and it also did happen very often at my ex's house, where they only had one computer. While I think getting another computer/laptop and going wireless (or router) is a great long-term solution, it's also good to start with a sharing process while one works that out. A good ways is, try to find out when are each other's friends/contacts on more often, because that alone can help decide a schedule (for instance, my friends log in more often after 8pm, if my sister's were to log in during the mornings, then we wouldn't have much of a problem setting schedules). If not able to do it that way, setting a two-three hours schedule for each and swapping could also be good. Or if you as a mother are busy during the mornings with chores, you can haver her be on during the mornings and take the afternoon for yourself. It's all about finding a balance. It was what we did with the tv (we both went to school in the morning and only had the afternoon. My sister is older, so she could stay up later- hence she got the tv in the evening/night, and I got it on the afternoon). [tahiel]
Hi Tahiel, Excellent advice, thank you for sharing. I have infact organised for a wireless sytem and laptop which will arrive in about 10 days so until then I am sure we can arrange something. My daughter is going to see a band tonight so I have this evening and I'm out tomorrow so she can have tomorrow bless etc. The TV in my house is always my choice on Sundays as I love Formula 1 and motorcycling racing but I let the kids choose the rest of the week. In fact if racing not on we have a TV free day and get Scalectrix out instead and race that! So much fun. It does sound like you have a good balance in your home. Well done. Ellie :D [ellie333]
We have the same problem in our house, with 3 of us wanting to use the computer! It started off that we had 2 laptops, but then I started a business online and so we invested in a desk top and so everyone was happy and I could go on the computer whenever I wanted, then my sons cable to his laptop went caput and as yet we havent been able to replace it, so everytime I move my butt off my chair, hes in it. I get quite cross as I am rather possessive of my computer, simply because I class it as mine because I am the only one who uses it! The other laptop is my husbands so my son cant use that one. So now I have to compromise with him, so I let him go on it when he comes home from school because I am too busy then to be on it so I dont mind too much!! My husband though, has his own laptop, but just lately always wants to go on MY desktop ARGH. But he now makes sure he only goes on it in between my times because he doesnt like me growling at him and shooting eye daggers into his back!!! Wireless is good though, we have wireless and we can run 3 or 4 laptops through the main computer, so if you get a laptop you will both be happy!! [gemini_rose]
Oh I can relate to how you feel, just the way you typed MY in capitals said it all LOL. I came home from work last night and there she was sat in MY computer chair on MY computer!!!! 'Laughing' She didn't stay on long though bless cos she went off to bed and I stayed on til about midnight just winding down really. I work a late shift. I have in fact today ordered an upgrade to wirless which comes with a laptop so yes we will both be happy. Also when my eldest daughter comes home from University she already has her own laptop so will be able to use her also. 'still laughing' can just visualise the look when you sending those daggers to his back. Ellie :D [ellie333]
can u tell exacyly how to earn in orkut??????? [rrahul]
Hi rrahul did not understand the question, but the one below from you asks about myLot so will go to that one and answer the best I can. Ellie :D [ellie333]
does any one know how to earn in mylot???????????????????????????????????????? [rrahul]
Hello rrahul, the best thing to do is answer as many discussions that you feel you can and request people who you relat to as friends, also start discussions for them to answer and the money bit will build. Just relax, enjoy and have fun. I think you can earn money by referring people (25%) of the person who is an active member below you but I myself am just on here to interact with others and earn just a small amount extra. You will find all the answers you need by going to FAQs section of MyLot. Welcome, hope you enjoy your experience here and make lots of friends. Ellie :D [ellie333]
If your sister wants to be on the computer as much as you do, you'll probably start fighting over it soon enough... lol... I say the only way is to buy another PC, or a computer... if it's just to chat and go to websites, it should hardly be expensive! [vinh88]
I have ordered a laptop earlier today. Ellie :D [ellie333]
Sometimes someone would like to borrow my computer and of course I let them, anyway they'll use it for like less than an hour. In your case, if your daughter will not staying for good, then let her use it and it's all yours when she's gone. If she'll stay there, make some times arrangements for you both. Buying a new computer is good. Better actually. [MGjhaud]
I think it will be fairly long term so I have now organised for a laptop and wireless facility which shouldbe here within 10 days so that should definately solve the problem, meanwhile we will work it out by sharing our online time. Thank you for your response. Ellie :D [ellie333]
when i use to live with my grandmother my cousin and i both wanted to use the phone we went hour by hour so she would use it for an hour den me....with the computer i live wit my mom and sisters and i brought the computer so when i finish they use it lol [ladypg]
Haha, yes I suppose as it is your computer you get first choice of when to use, like that one, but you do still share which is lovely. I have decided on getting a laptop and wireless network now so the problem will be solved very soon. Thank you for sharing. Ellie :D [ellie333]
I had an experience like that while living at a friends house on a dial up modem. It had to be narrowed down to a schedule. That might work for you and your daughter. It's difficult to make it work and for a while she was cheating on her schedule, but if you can make it work. that would be something to try. [Kashigurl]
Yeah I haven't told her yet so it will be a real pleasant surprise for her and as it is her birthday coming up I'm actually going to give her the laptop for herself so that so can take wherever she is, so problem definately resolved eh! Ellie :D [ellie333]
The laptop is a good solution. One that you may consider before she comes home another time. Why don't the 2 of you sit down and figure out a time table. How much she needs and you. Then you both have a time limit. 1 hour for her, one for you.Team work, may be helpful for this time. [ersmommy1]
Hi, yes I have decided a laptop is the solution and have now organised for one to be delivered for her birthday and have upgraded to wireless, meanwhile, I have the days and evenings she is out and she has the evenings I work etc. Thank you for sharing. Ellie :D [ellie333]
this always happen to us.. my brother and me. hehe but i will tell my mom i have to finish some work so i will have a chance to use the computer for about an hour before my brother will use it :D [chiyosan]
Thats naughty bet you not doing work really haha, gonna get a laptop and wireless system now so won't be a problem for much longer but thanks for sharing. Ellie :D [ellie333]
When my kids come to visit I let them use it whenever they want.....and since it's in my bedroom I can use it after they go to bed or are off visitng someone else. It's hard when I usually don't have to share! My daughter might be spending part of the summer with me but she is going to bring her own computer and hook it up in the room they will be sleeping. [jillhill]
Oh mine is in the communal area and I think she is back to stay. Like you say it is hard when you are used to having it just for you. My eldest daughter has her own also but as until now I haven't had a wirless system hasn't been able to use. I decided today that I would order an upgrade and laptop so problem will be solved in about 10 days. Meanwhile I'll let her use it when she wants to bless, I'll just growl a bit in the background LOL Ellie :D [ellie333]
hi ellie good to see you back-my son lives with me and its onmy recently that i got a new lap=top thing is he found he didn't want my old one so started using my new one-at first all was ok but then my son started more or less taking over my laptop--in the end i hadto tell him that it was mine and he had to ask me if he wanted to go on it that was the only way we manage to compromise when wanting to use it-blessings littleowl [littleowl]
Hi Littleowl, well for the next 10 days we are going to have to compromise but I was really naughty earlier today and upgraded to wireless package which also included a laptop, so meanwhile we will share. I got home from work, and as you know sometimes I don't get through the door till 11pm gone and I usually get on the computer to wind down for an hour or so and there she was in the chair on the computer and I thought oh, what do I do now. A bit lost as I'm used to having my own space so to speak and there she was on MySpace instead LOL. It is lovely having her here though, she has gone to see a band tonight so I have a free evening to be online. Yippee. Thanks for sharing, kids eh! Ellie :D [ellie333]
Yes, a laptop is a good option. Nowadays, it has become a necessity to have one. I used to have this argument with my brother when we only have our own computer. Of course, the one who will do a very important one will always win over. Now, that we are both working, we can buy our stuff and not argue a lot. [jeanniemay]
Hi Jeanniemay, yes I have decided getting her a laptop is the best option and have ordered an upgrade to go wireless so hopefully it will be all up and running in about 10 days. Thank you for sharing. Glad you and your bro have own income to purchase to stop the arguing. Ellie :D [ellie333]
computer hardwares are very cheap nowadays, you can set another pc so you can have 2 pcs in your house. To save cost, you may consider linux distro as OS to use. But to buy laptop is a good idea too, You can online anywhere you like without having things you don't like bothering you... [anotherbirthday]
Hi, Thanks for advice, not sure what linux distro as OS is but have now opted to upgrade to wireless in a package that has a laptop as part of it as you say a laptop at least she can take with anywhere, whereas I am usually homebased. Ellie :D [ellie333]
We have a laptop in our kitchen but, the hubby is the resident computer guru in the house so, he naturally was on the computer more than me so, when I was on it and thought he might want get on it, I would just get off. But, this past weekend, I finally decided that I really wanted my own computer so that I could be on it as long as I wanted so, I got an Apple MacBook. So, you might consider getting a second computer for the house. Unless your daughter's current living arrangement is only temporary and you will be back to having your computer to yourself again soon enough. Than, another computer might be a waste or money. [cortjo73]
No I think she is back for a fair amount of time so I actually decided to get her her own laptop for her birthday but managed to get a good deal earlier and have upgraded to wireless too. Will take about 10 days to get sorted and meanwhile will let her have her time as socialising with her friends is important too. Thanks for sharing. Ellie :D [ellie333]
We divide the time whenever who is available to use.I use the pc when my hubby is at work and my daughter is in school.At night my hubby would use it for about an hour then my daughter after she is done with her assignments. [giePortlandOR_08]
Oh yes she will be elated, it will be the last thing she will expect. It is her birthday next month so it will be for that but she knows I couldn't afford anything like that but managed to get as part of the upgrade and even though more expensive per month I save in any other areas so it balances out. Ellie :D [ellie333]
I would say let them take turns using the computer, it is only fair, they half to share. [marciascott]
Yes we will share until I get her a laptop and wireless connection. Its the evenings that we both seem to want to get on at similar times. Ellie :D [ellie333]
Hi Ellie, It happens to us here in my work, were only one computer is available to use. But now a japanese friend of my boss, always come, use our computer to just surf online, our work was really affected, so what I did, I put the internet security level to the maximum, so that when he tries to come and surf online he will be disappointed for he cannot open any site which are not trusted. he he he!! Have I done is wrong? [omar0913]
No I don't think you have done wrong at all. LOL. They shouldn't be stopping you boss's company from being able to do its work and long term usage like this could have a detrimental effect and even make your job insecure, so well done you for taking action. Ellie :D [ellie333]
We all have our designated times on here. We change it up of course from time to time depending on each others schedules but we try to work together and be fair. Once in a while there is a conflict but not too much. I think you should set time limits with your daughter so that it is fair to you as well. [sid556]
Thank you for sharing, which we will have to learn to do with computer at home. Have now organised for a laptop for my daughter as my elderst has one and she has a birthday coming up so good timing really and an upgrade to wireless. Ellie :D [ellie333]
Good thing for me, I do not have to share my laptop with anyone in the house. My laptop is like a personal thing for me, just like my cellphone nobody touches them except me...lol...Well, if I'm in that situation, maybe we could schedule the use of computer. [idaantipolo]
Thank you both for your responses, its lovely that you have your own laptops. My daughter will too very soon as that is a decision I have made to get her one and upgrade to wireless at home also. Until then we will share. Ellie :D [ellie333]
Hello Ellie. If getting online is the only culprit, well you can just buy a cheap but reliable laptop for your daughter or for your personal use. We have the same problem at home before but not until I got a second desktop PC for my own. Now everything is fine. Scheduling time usage can be a challenge to both you since you really have to get online with no assurance what time you'll be finished. Hope that helps! [vhayste]
Hi Thanks for your response, unfortunately laptops are not cheap here in the UK but I have managed to upgrade to a wireless network which did in fact include a laptop in the package, so we just have to share now for about another 10 days until it all set up, yippee. Ellie :D [ellie333]
I wonder how exactly are you able to write what is happening right here in my house.She steals my PC.Well she is my first priority and she too understands me. [balasri]
Its my pleasure. [balasri]
Hi, You can one thing that get a laptop or Computer. Otherwise do time management... [sumit31]
You are right I think the laptop is the answer so have ordered one but until then yes time management. Thank you for you input. Ellie :D [ellie333]
I am also going through same patch...my brother want to be on www.yuvie.com and i want to be on www.mylot.com ......its very hard to do this....you are telling is one of the truths in the world.... [priyankps2005]
Thanks for sharing, so you definately know how I am feeling! Have organised for an upgrade and get a laptop in the package so we won't have to share for too much longer now. Ellie :D [ellie333]
When my older sister is at home. I always let her use the computer first because she only checks one site-and anyways I am online everyday,. So I guess there is no problem with us. Maybe you two should set-up a schedule for whom should use the computer for a specific time. Or if the schedule doesn't work then maybe you should opt for a new laptop. [quawertz]
Oh that lovely that you let your sister on whenever she is at home and there is no problem. I have in fact decided to get her a laptop then she has it wherever she goes, but meanwhile I will let her on to keep in touch with her friends and I will use at other times when she is at work or in bed. Thank you for sharing. Ellie :D [ellie333]
Oh, I understand. When we first got our computer back in 1995 my husband was not to familiar with them now he is the computer God or Geek, LOL. We had to share the one computer, it was rough at first but then I got pregnant and you know between being tired, etc. you don't have time, then the baby comes. By the time our oldest was 2 we got a second computer. Now we are a 4 computer family, only because Bob is in telecommunications/cable - or so he told me. My 11 year old WANTS a laptop, her computer bit the dust when we had our water disaster. I don't think an 11 year old needs a laptop but Bob is like she needs a new computer. So we will wait and see. She does need it for school, which I was really surprised how much homework an 11 year old has that needs to use a computer. She is using my old computer in my room so I can monitor her use. [kimbers867]
Oh that is fantastic that you monitor her use I did this when my daughters were younger, I made sure it was their friends they were talking too and that they were doing the homework on it rather than just chatting. I have decided to get an upgrade to wireless and the package includes a laptop. My eldest daughter has her own for university so I think as my other daughter is nearly 17 it is time for her to have one too. Wow four computers, lucky you. Thank you so much for sharing. Ellie :D [ellie333]
I think getting a laptop is the way to go, in our house there are 2 wireless laptops and 1 wireless pc and a wireless printer, so the only queues we encounter are for the printer lol. I think if we were all battling over 1 pc or laptop life would be unbearable!, but that beggars the question do we spend too much time on the internet? I hope you find a happy medium :) [Alfie1970]
Yes I have decided to get her a laptop and if fact have managed to organise for a wirless upgrade and the laptop comes as part of the package so I will have one very happy daughter very soon as I haven't told her yet, meanwhile we will have to compromise. I am sure we all do spend too much time online, but it is good fun. Thank you for sharing. Ellie :D [ellie333]
Hi ellie, That would be difficult for me, as I spend so much time at my computer. I agree that you are right, and that she has to have equal time to talk to her friends, I would do the same. My wife doesn't use it very much at all, so I can spend as much time as I want here. Blessings. [Pose123]
Thank you for sharing, I guess you are lucky that your wife is not that bothered about using, I have decided to upgrade to a wireless network and as part of the package she will have her own laptop so that will solve the problem long term, meanwhile we shall just have to compromise for about another 10 days while it gets set up. Ellie :D [ellie333]
When we had only one computer and one internet connection, the boys were at University, and then the connection was free, so I could only use it for research and only for a short time each day, but your case is different. I think you should either buy the laptop and get wi.fi, or set up a schedule when she is allowed to use it. It also depends on how old she is, having her chatting all the time is not that good even if she is an adult. And I doubt that you are very awake at night after she goes to bed. The laptop seems like the best idea. You could also get her to help pay the isp or cable or dsl bills as well, if she has a job. [suspenseful]
Hi Thank you for your response, she is almost seventeen and has just recently started work after months of job hunting. Bless her she went to give me a third of her first wage packet the other day. I said no the first one you get to keep have fun with it, but future ones yes ofcourse she will contribute. I have decided now to upgrade to wi-fi and manged to get a package which came with a laptop, so she will have that for her birthday so we will just compromise until then, shouldn't be too difficult as only have to do that now for approximately 10 days whilst they sort the upgrade out. She doesn't chat all the time, quite often she looking things up or playing quizzes, but understand what you are saying, when younger always monitored what sites both girls were going on. Ellie :D [ellie333]
Hi, oh yes, I know what you feel! But we found the decision - we turn on two onlines and change of sitting on the computer hourly :) [gadabout21]
Yes, but it will pay dividends soon I think.. You'll save your and your child nerves :) [gadabout21]
I actually did the whole buying a laptop and going wireless. It really helped because I have an 18 y/o daughter and we were going the same thing about one wanting to be on the comp. when the other was. [valerie37]
Hi That is exactly what I have decided to do now. I have upgraded to a wi-fi and got a package that has a laptop included so my daughter can have this whether she at home or not, meanwhile as it takes 10 days to set up we will have to share. Thank you for sharing. Ellie :D [ellie333]
I have seven children, so I know exactly what you mean! I know the library allows thirty minutes per user, and if nobody else is waiting, then you can have another thirty minutes! I try to limit the children's usage to one hour a day, as that is the new suggestion by doctors. They say one hour of television or computer usage, as children are becoming obese at an alarming rate! You will notice during holidays and weekends, that I am not online as much, due to giving the kids their time, or that I am online much more at night and during school hours, so I can get some time and concentrate too! [olivemai]
Our libraries give an hour to adults, and half an hour for children! The children can get another half hour if nobody is waiting! [olivemai]
I am spoiled and don't have to share my desktop or my laptop. The kids have their own computer they share (I have a timer set up with AOL for each kid's account and it boots them off when their hour is up! If they log on without AOL they get grounded from the computer. Ask my oldest! My husband has his own laptop. He may have an opportunity this summer to get a new laptop, and maybe one of the older kids can do some chores and earn that one. For you- its your computer so I say you get it. If you need to take a break (not good for your back to sit that long) tell her she can have it for an hour. I don't care how old she is- its YOURS. [crazylady]
Hi sounds like you have a wonderful system going there and the kids know exactly where they stand. I am on AOL so perhaps thats one I could try. I have in fact ordered the laptop package they are doing so within about 10 days we will both have our own anyway so the problem will be resolved. Will try the timer idea til then. Ellie :D [ellie333]
Sign her up on Mylot and make sure she chats so you can make money on her being online! LOL [crazylady]
Oh what an excellent idea but I'm sure she would rather her frineds on MySpace but will run it by her LOL Ellie :D [ellie333]
When my son comes to visit he tends to think that he is the only one that uses my computer. So, a year ago, when he visited I told him that we were going to have a schedule that will work for both of us. It was fairly easy for us. He (and his friends) still live in California and I live in Michigan (and my friends are used to the time difference) we set it up where I used it during the day and he did at night. Considering his job and activities usually began at 9 pm Pacific time and he was used to staying up to all hours of the night, I used it until 11 pm eastern time and he could use it after that. I usually did not get on it until 3 pm so no over lap. I suggest you make up a schedule you could both live with and then let your respective friends know what you're both doing. [sageivyberyl]
I understand completely. I am happy for you. [sageivyberyl]
for years we only had one computer and there was three of us. I was working at the time, the kids had the computer during the day and I had had 4 hours at night after I came home from work, there was no if ands or buts, they knew this was my time. [winterose]
Thats great that you all worked it out. My daughter and myself are usually here the same time as we both work and are both in late evening which is the time we want to get online, but I have resolved the problem now, she doesn't know yet though, buy ordering a wireless package complete with a laptop which I will give her so whether she is here or not she can take with anywhere. Will take about 10 days to set up but will be worth the compromise til then. Thank you for sharing. Ellie :D [ellie333]
I often find that the net is needed for quick stuff around here. my wife and I only have one machine so we find ourselves neededing it at the same time. I suggest investing in either a cheap wifi laptop, or look at the PSP the PSP has a great web browser(it was my only browser for months) you can use aimonpsp.com to do aol instant messanger, and there are others for other IM's it plays movies and games, and music. internet radio is extremely nice I have one and I got my wife one for Val day, I used it for a long time to myspace, mylot, and email. the typing takes a bit of getting used to(it is similar to sending a txt on a cell phone, but after that it is very fast and functional. and they are only $169, cheaper than most laptops. it may look like a Game System but it is far from it. it is a powerhouse in a tiny package. I strongly recommend a PSP, but a laptop will give you a qwerty keyboard and windows at three times the cost if you go for a laptop, I recomend an "Acer Extensa 5420" I got one for about 650 and it is loaded with function. lots of video mem and a desent processor. I looked hard for a great buy, and I settled on this one. you should google the stats on this model, I found it had almost 4 times the video memory as an HP or Compaq laptop of the same processor and RAM. this thing is quick and nice. and the price made it super sweet. you won't be disapointed, but make sure you get it at best buy(and get a two year accident plan, it ups the price but it makes you feel safe) in total I paid about 900 after the plan I love the computer I got my wife [deaf_omega]
Thank you so much for all your help and advice. It is very much appreciated. I have been searching around for the best price laptop and haven't really found one that is affordable for me, but I did in fact speack to my ISP provider and they have given me a fantastic deal where I have upgrade to wi-fi and as part of the package I receive a laptop. Even though the package is more expensive than the one I am on now it will be saving me in other areas so it evens out. We are still going to have to share for about another 10 days whilst it is all set up, but I am sure we can mange that one. I haven't told my daughter yet, but she will be so pleased and I will let her have the laptop for herself to keep so that she can take it with her wherever she goes bless. What a lovely thing to do for your wife on Valentines day. I bet she was elated. I am not very technology minded and didn't even really know what a PSP was even though I had heard of it. I am much more knowledgable now. Thank you so much for sharing. Ellie :D [ellie333]
That circumstances always happen to me when i at home.There is only one computer in my house.When summer or winter coming, my younger sister and i all want to play computer,and nowdays my mother and my father are all spoony over to computer.so there are always four people to wait to play computer.My mother and father have to work daytime.so it is the time for me and my sister to play,we all plan the time she two hours and me two hours.we will not paly all our time to work on computer.When she play computer i will do something else.and the time in night is for my parents.If some one in my family have something improtant to do on edge,the computer is for she/he obiviously. [moondan]
Hi Thank you for sharing. It sounds like you have a very good system worked out at home. I have now managed to find a wi-fi package which comes complete with a laptop which even though is costing me more I will be saving in other area and ofcourse the best bit is my daughter gets to have her own laptop. I haven't told her yet so she will be so pleased. Have to wait abut 10 days for it all to be set up so we will have to share until then. Ellie :D [ellie333]
i have my son and two daughters...they all wanting to use it everyday..but luckily they were at school on the daytime..which means i have all the day..but i cant since i really cant sit long since i have some work to do (maybe 2 to 3 hours only)..and besides my eyes hurt if im with it for a long time.. [vanities]
Thank you for your response. Thats great that you have the day to go on it. I must admit my back begins to ache if I am sitting at the computer for too long and did get my eyes tested recently as on it far more now. Ellie :D [ellie333]
i used to have this problem because of my junior brother that was staying with me for a couple of months this guy can stay online for more than 24hours if its possible but i quickly found a solution to that i purchased another pc and placed it in my room and connecting it to the net as well,now no one uses that with me so no need to compromise,it also allow me to leave some pages on as they are [BYOLA2871]
Thank you. Yes it will certainly free my time up! Ellie :D [ellie333]
I think it does happen. You can connect to computer by local area net working. This could also be done with the help of wireless. A device, which called blue tooth can be stalled in both of your two computer and you can get connected both of your computer. Blue tooth is a little wireless which works in a little distance and it is very useful device for many purposes of exchanging data and to keep connected with each other. [sheenshaukat]
Hi Thank you for the information and sharing. I have now in fact decided as its her birthday next month to get her her own laptop and upgrade to wireless so this should solve the problem 1. off what to get her and 2. fights over whose turn it is to spend time online. Ellie :D [ellie333]
when i was still a student, me and my sister kinda compete with the use of our computer at home. but that happens occasionally because even if we are both at home during weekends, both of us go out on a different schedule. sometimes, if she's out, i'm at home. if i'm out, she's at home. so we seldom bicker over the computer. ^__^;; but now, my sister already has two kids and a husband to care for, we don't compete for the computer anymore. she rarely use the computer now because she's often with her kids at their house. and the computer kinda became mine because i'm now the one solely spending for its maintenance and internet service. nobody else in the family is interested in computer. lucky me. ^__^ [secretbear]
hi ellie. happy i guess you are right. i have the right for its exclusive use. i love the sound of it. lol wow. you're such a generous mom! you're gonna give her a laptop complete with wifi? awesome. i wish my mother was that generous too! but i'm not saying i don't like my mother the way she is right now. she's perfectly fine for me. but she just hasn't given me any expensive gifts like that. wink i'm glad you can share your computer conveniently. ^__^ [secretbear]
Hi Ellie! There's a Gadget called a KVM Splitter that allows you to hook up 2 monitors and keyboards to one computer,so 2 users can work the same machine..It could be useful if you didn't want to go the new computer route..I think they're about $100-would you have an old monitor lying around? [ShepherdSpy]
Absolutely no need to apologise, I got a really good deal so I am happy but will definately look into the KVM Splitter for the future. Many thanks for this help and advice. It is much appreciated. Ellie :D [ellie333]
I guess I look at this a little differently. You don't say home from where, or her age. If she has moved back home from being independent then why should you have to give up your computer time, or be responsible for buying her a laptop? I bought my children a computer for Christmas, but they are school age and live at home. Not trying to be hard nosed here, but sometimes I think parents go above board where grown children are concerned. How will they ever learn to stand on their own two feet. [olivebranch56]
Hi Olivebranch56 Thank you for your blessings and kind wishes for us both. Ellie :D [ellie333]
hey its really dificult to find some way to use one compuetr on one time. well this never happened with me because i am alone in my home so i never share my computer with any one. but when my sister comes from her hostel then i leave computer for few days. becasue i know she will be back after few days and she will come home afetr near a month. so i leave my seat from compuetr. [simplyman2006]
Hi simplyman2006, That s is lovely of you to allow your sister use of the computer whilst she is staying with you, but like you say your have exclusive use at all other times which is good for you. Thank you for sharing. Ellie :D [ellie333]
Actually i don't have any computer here i just use the pc of my older brother. while he is in work i can use it freely but when he arrives i will just wait when he will finished using it. it sometimes embarrassing especially that you have some things to be done or to be finished but you are replace by the owner. [edstewar]
Hi edstewar, thank you for responding. I suppose you are in my daughters situation as it is your brothers computer so you can understand how she feels because the computer is mine, but it seems like you and your brother do manage to share well even if a little frustrating at times eh! Ellie :D [ellie333]
that happens a lot here in our household. we just set a time limit or bribe each other if we despeartely need to use it. but there are times when everyone is nice you simply have to ask once. [nimette]
I suppose it depends on what they are doing on the computer at the time you ask, if they are engrossed in something I should imagine its harder to prise them away eh! Thank you for sharing. Ellie:D [ellie333]
There is only one workable solution where no one is displaced, angry or irritable and that is to get a second computer. There are plenty of cheap ways to do it too, but unless you want the laptop don't let yourself be the displaced one with a lesser computer. [bradhart]
Yes a second computer is definately the answer, I will let my daughter have the laptop because I prefer a desk top myself, can't get used to not having a mouse on laptop. Have found a great package which is actually going to work out about the same price as I'm paying out now which includes a new laptop and a wirless system. So no squabbling over online time anymore eh!. Thank you for your response. Ellie :D [ellie333]
Since I am on the computer all week long my husband uses the computer on the weekends. I get frustrated though because sometimes I think he is just doing it so I can't use it. He only plays card games on the internet and checkers, so he doesn't do any work. I let him play on the computer for a few hours and then I ask him if he can get off and let me do some of my work. Sometimes he will get off and let me on, but most of the time he says no. It's his turn. I have thought about getting another computer but can't really afford it, so I just have to put up with it and let my work slide by on the weekends. [chrislotz]
Well I suppose weekends are for relaxing anyway. Thanks for sharing, but I have now got an upgrade package that included a laptop so she can have that for her birthday and I get to use my computer. I also have my other daughter arriving back for Easter as she has a lot of revision for uni and she has her own laptop so to go wi-fi seemed right. More expensive but saved in other areas, like didn't have to buy laptop and will save on phone bill too. Ellie :D [ellie333]
Yes sometimes I am required to compromise online time with my family. Currently I need to share the internet with my brother who is visiting us. Other times when my wife needs to use the internet, I am required to compromise with her. However its good to compromise when you can see your loved ones happy. [sohelkm]
Funny you should should say that I was upstairs earlier and got a text message from my daughter on my phone who was downstairs. So yes soon it will be an email. Ellie :D [ellie333]
If she just wants internet, get her an Asus Eee PC. May be a fair bit small, but worth it! [Firehazel]
Hi sorry Firehazel I have never heard of this, but have now resolved by getting an upgrade which came with a free laptop. So we both happy. Other daughter due home from uni this weekend and she has so much revision to do that having the wi-fi now is an ideal solution, but please let me know what an Asus Eee PC is please. Ellie :D [ellie333]
My husband and I both insist on having our own computer, and when we got married we both had our own computer. I have a laptop, and he has a desktop. We both love being able to do what we need to do and want to do at the precise moment we want to do it. [danishcanadian]
Thats great that you have both always had your own, in fact since posting this I have now upgraded to a wireless network and part of the package was a free laptop so we are both happy now, my eldest daughter also arrived home yesterday from uni with her laptop so timed it really well as now we can all go on together. Many thanks for sharing. Ellie :D [ellie333]
Well, my husband and I as well as our 8 year old son all love to be online. We remedied the situation by giving our son the existing desktop and purchasing two laptops and a router. Everyone is happy!! [gopats]
Ji Thanks for sharing, yes since posting this I have upgraded to wireless network which also came with a laptop so we all happy now. Ellie :D [ellie333]
Well, it is a matter of who is free and who uses it first. I too share a computer with my wife. There is no problem with who gets what first. As long as the computer is free, the other person can use it. No particular arrangement to use the computer. If you have a spare, setting up a wireless would definitely be a good way to share the same connection. If your daughter is back only for a short period of time, then let it be. No point spending money on a laptop just to use the net for that period. We'd all still be here to post on your posting when your daughters go home. No worries! lollol [ahgong]
ha ha ha ha ha... thanks. with the extra mobility, I may spend a little more time here posting already! Heh heh eh... the benefits are limitless! lollollol [ahgong]