Yesterday my spouse came into my computer room and was chatting away with me, when I realized that I'd been looking at the computer screen almost the entire time I was talking to him. How rude! Maybe it's something that I do out of habit. Or, maybe I'm just too addicted to working on my computer. Plus, I was really tired, so maybe that's why I didn't turn to face him while he was talking.
It's not as though he complained about me continuing to type as I chatted with him. Occasionally, I would look over at him. But, after about five minutes of chatting and talking, I got very uncomfortable and stopped. Has that ever happened to you? Do you chat with someone in the room, while you are typing? Do they mind? Does it bother you?
[question posted by beautyqueen26]
responses and comments:
I think I do the same thing. I guess it is rude, but I don't think I ever have a serious conversation while doing that, otherwise I would be looking at them. It all depends on what you are talking about, I guess. [dopey22girl]
hi! there beautyqueen, i know what you mean . my man does that to me sometimes.i feel i'm not that important and i feel that i don't exist in this world. good for your husband who never complains but it's really frustrating when i feel i need that attention. honestly i say to my man that he loves me more than his computer and u know what i did recently? i gave him a dose of his own medicine. LOL. well for know we talked it over and we made a good compromise. happy ending.. [septemberstar76]
er.I'm as same as you.This often happan to me.When I oncentrate on the computer.I'm not going to chat with others.It will bother me if they talk with me when i'm looking at my computer screen seriously. [gotpiao]
Yup, I do this at times. I mean, I can talk to him while I am typing away my responses. He knows I can multitask. [everlasting]
Of course I do so. I even sometimes keep typing, but I will make sure that I let my husband know that I am listening. And if I start to have problems separating the two, it's always the computer I make wait while I finish the conversation, and not my husband who has to wait for me to finish typing. I think it's a pretty common thing among avid computer enthusiasts. =P I'll talk to my husband when he's doing something online, but not usually when he's playing online games. Because when he's doing those he'll get annoyed if something doesn't go quite right, and interrupt our conversation with cursing and growling and such. Kind of a conversation-killer. [lecanis]
It's crazy thing do this O.o talk with computer1?!?!?! xD [doijunior]
I have never had this happen to me as I am the only one who stay in my apartment doing mylotting and I am enjoy the quiet place without being disturbed by anybody. I am well concentrated in mylotting. hehe [williamjisir]
Hey, i too have that habit and i realised it just now when i read ur discussion. A litle while earlier a girl from my neighbour came to me, asking about how to fill a form for some exams, and i was not looking at her, and replied to all her questions, how co-incidence that it happened just now and i read ur discussion after that. [eshaan]
Yeah it doesn happend to me before, but it seems like nobody really care.I don't make it on purpose and after 5 minutes or so, I find what I was doing. [laurika]
You got uncomfortable and stopped what? Usually my sister will keep talking to me constantly, and she gets offended when I talk to her while still looking at the screen lol, saying all my friends on here are better than her, etc etc. But it's not that, it's just I have limited time on PC and she talks the entire time. Oh well, I try not to do it anymore because it can be offensive. [loolets]
yes this has happened to me many times.. when i am in some important work i wold answer the questions without facing their face.. but i found it to be a bad thing to talk to a person without facing them. so now i practice to talk by looking at the people [sundarsuriyan]
well yes i do. i think its not being disrespectful. i think we are just being busy. well i think other people will understand especially our love ones. but if onter people we should stop looking or things we ar doing in the computer first and look to the one we are talking with. i think it depends on who you are talking to. but i think if its your spouse i think she will understand it. and i think you will have a lot of time to talk face to face because you are with her most of the time. but other people who are not related to us, comes to us to talk we should face them and talk to them. [bluewaves]
The only reason why that does not happen to me, is I close the door to my computer room most of the time. My folks aren't interested in it, and their TV is so loud (they are hard of hearing as they're elderly) that it drives me too nutz. I'm sure if people went in and out of this room while I was typing I'd type and talk at the same time, you betcha! [cremechese51]
I do the same. I can't be attentive to my girlfriend when i'm at my computer even if i promised i would always listen to her [flaviusilaghi]
I just have to laugh because my daughter can be talking to me and I can be talking to her and be typing what I want to say on mylot at the same time. My daughter just looks at me and asks HOW DO YOU DO THAT? It' easy. Normally I can't chew gum and walk at the same time, but I can do that... so funny. [OreoCookie3]
well , i think that it's a bit rude.. because if he did the same thing to you , you'll be really pissed off .. i had once a similar problem , i was watching tv while my mom was talking to me .. i took few seconds to answer her question.. and i made her really angry that day [dodge87]
I'm the one talking while doing something in my computer especially if i'm busy then somebody came to me..and questioning what i'm doing in my computer sometimes I ignored them.. I felt bad and I realized what I done when the person is out of my sight.. When I working in computer shop one of my customer need some assistant then I'm busy for my encoding some paper works I teached him while encoding...I'm not bothering about it..I think they understand what our doing in front of our computer. [maybey]
hahah i try not to but sometimes i forget to stop and its especially if its something interesting and i want to finish reading it, i know its rude and i do apoliges [sarah22]
I don't actually type when I am talking to someone else, or at least not very often. I do read emails and play games and things like that, though. I can do that while still talking to my husband or on the phone without any problems. My husband doesn't mind. I'm a little surprised about that, though. I get mad at him if he doesn't look at me when I talk to him, but he can't multi-task at all. If he could, it wouldn't bother me if he was looking somewhere else when talking to me. [carlaabt]
Unfortunately for me, I do the same thing as well when I'm sitting in front of the computer. I can't face my dad when he is talking to me and I'm sitting in front of the computer. I always feel regretted and guilty for doing it but history always repeat itself. [daveisdavid]
I did the same thing to my mum when she came in and nagged me to stop using the comp.. I'll only turn and look at her only when I'm less focused on it. But don't think she minds that. Guess I'm too addicted to my comp.. [syaobai]
No, although I do tend to think through my head clearly what I am type as there have been occasions where what I have type is completely different to what was suppose to be said. [8ctavarium]
I do it all the time. I guess they get use to the fact that I am online and I like being oneline so nothing gets said to much. [Shaun72]
yes somtetimes the things that i type is paired with my mouth dictating it. i dont know maybe its just an automatic reflex for me that whatever i type i tried to state it verbally while typing it.is it normal? idont know. [joshboz]
sometimes i will talk while looking at my computer screen. when the speed is too slow, then i will say'hurry up'or 'what are you doing, baby?' i guess someone seeing it, then he/she must be confused. haha. frankly, i spend too much time alone at home, so i really want to chat with others by month,not by hands online. but all my friends are very busy to earn money for their living. when they are free, then they have to spend time with their own partners. so i can chat only with my boyfriends at night. it is a boring life, but it is my choice. [wonderful1]
Hello beautyqueen26, I have the same experience with my mother over and over. There are only three of us at home - me, my son and my mother. I think she feels a little bit lonely and bored with the daily life. During day time, she lives alone at home and sometimes she will go to my neighbor's house just to have a chat with someone, if they are at home. Sometimes she will come into the room and trying to have a chat with me. Whenever I am busy in front of the computer and she comes in, she will sit beside me and starts to talk. I will respond to her but never look at her face to face. She never complains about it. I know it sounds a bit rude to talk to someone especially your parents or spouse in that way but I think my mother understands that... Honestly, I won't do that to my husband. He will definitely gets mad at me for thinking that doing something on the computer is more important than looking at him while he talks! [gr8life]
It wont look nice. i will close the screen once guests or friends come. after they left only i will surf again. i had bitter experience when some close relative came and saw me operating the computer. With great distrust they left my home shouting that i have disrespected them even though it is not intentional. we have to avoid this. nice day. [sara03]
I think there was nothing wrong with that, most especially if both of you are in front of the computers. Me I dont mind also if the one talking to me is not looking at me, but if the one talking to me is not doing nothing, he/she must be looking at me. Its nice and its good habit to be looking at somebody's eyes when talking but if your are talking and doing something like chatting in the computer, you dont have to look at him. But once in a while you should look at someone whose talking to you. [bagumbayan]
Yes the same thing happens to me ! I do find myself talking to people and be looking at the computer at the same time typing thing out, or doing what ever I was doing, but still talk at the same time. It wouldn't bother me if someone did this to me, as long as I knew that they was listening to me, and answering me as well, as finishing their work. [marylouu69]
i have a portable pc and it stays in my bedroom. when my family enter in my bedroom i continue to work to my pc. if they would talk with me and i don't raise the head they go out and returned when i have finished my work. [betta88]
Yes I also do that, like when I am rushing on finishing something to meet deadlines. And you can expect that they understand the situation. However it will be a different story if you are just chatting from chatrooms and surfing the web. [ggaaiill]
Sadly, my husband and I will both work at the computer, and talk to each other at the same time, and never look up at each other. One of us will be at the desk top, and the other at the lap top. We e-mail stuff back and forth that we want to share. I do find it a little hard to swallow, doing this this way. I do not feel that it contributes anything to our relationship. [GardenGerty]
I have found myself doing this- but I am reminded to stop- My daughter and my sig. other will be like MOM or honey—I'm over here- LOL… then again I don't tend to be on the computer very often when they are inside or awake—I try to spend the time with them! But how funny that you caught yourself doing this- [KrisNY]
When my boyfriend is talking to me, I always looked at him. I will pause the game I'M playing on my pc or stop writing on mylot (or something ask him to wait until I have finish to write my idea). But my mom, when I talk to her on the phone, will continue to cha at the same time so sometime she doesnt hear what I'm saying. I hate when she does that. She don,t it all the time. [beyonce03]
Theres nothing wrong at all. But next time be sure to talk with anyone want talking to you to face him up. But your husband can understand. But if most of the time you will be doing that he might got mad of you and dont talk to you ever. Just be kind to him. [bagumbayan]
hi beauty, well it is rude i shd admit...'m the one talking while doing something in my computer especially if i'm busy then somebody came to me..and questioning what i'm doing in my computer sometimes I ignored them.. I felt bad and I realized what I done when the person is out of my sight.. i do feel sorry many a times.. [purnima175]