what do you do with people who think being on the computer is just playing and so they talk non stop about anything and nothing,. they want you to reply. I have tried just ignoring it and also just puttin in some words like oh is that so , or yes I think so too,but that does not stop motormouth. I cannot move or i would ,I have my computer and
monitor hooked up to cable, so too much trouble and expense to ask to be moved. yesterday after she bugged me until I made an error in banking I lost my cool and yelled at her to please shut up for at least ten minutes. she said oh I was bothering you. guess i had better stop
talking to you. well yes, just what I said. How would you handle this, as i do have to live with miss motormouth?
[question posted by Hatley]
responses and comments:
Heya Hatkey. Don't you love that! lol It's up there with people shutting up through the TV commercials and then starting to crap on the second your show comes back on. If I'm starting to become really distracted by my Wife talking while I'm on the computer, then I'll either stop what I'm doing and chat for a while, or I'll ask for some time to finish what I'm doing and we can chat after that. As for Miss Motormouth, a happy medium usually does the trick. Ask her politely for a certain amount of time and reassure her that as soon as you're done, she'll have your undivided attention. If that doesn't work, then yelling at her to shut up might be the only answer! lol [James72]
hi james22 well right now she is listening to her radio on her headphones so this is just wonderful . I can mylot in peace for awhile. I had a doctors appointment this afternoon and it took most all my time with it.happyhappyhappy [Hatley]
LOL @ motormouth! lol I read elsewhere yesterday that this person was forever talking and had caused you to make a banking mistake. It must be really difficult for you if you have to put up with her day in day out. Could you come to some sort of compromise and give her half an hour every now and then as I presume she has no-one else to talk to? Maybe she is even the type who is a little bit jealous because you have such a good way of spending your time? I knew someone who couldn't bear to see me reading a book and had to always interrupt with an excuse but then every time I closed the book to listen they had nothing more to say doh I cannot manage to be typing away with someone who is hoping to hold a conversation with me too. I lose the train of thought on both things at a certain point. Luckily I live alone so I do not have this problem. [mysdianait]
hi diana right now shes a love as she is on her headphones listening to her radio. so I can catch up on my discussion in some peace and quiet. I do like the lady,she is sweet and gentle so we shall just see. [Hatley]
You have just said what I feel all the time about such situations. Most of the time I am in this kind of situations. When ever I am on the computer people have lot of things to talk and discuss and I, like a good obedient student have to give full attention to them. You have the courage to tell them to shut up. I lack this courage. This shows how much lonely they feel and this is why they seek us out. I feel pity for them and so I give away my time to listening to them. Now I come to know I am not the only blessed one in the world. There are people like you too who are equally blessed like me. So if we can help them forget their worries a little, why not listen? After all this may be God's way of passing the message to us. Have a nice time with your friends. Wish you all the best. [meapas]
hi malamar good advice but I am in a room with her as my' roomate and in order to make my internet payment with mylot money I have to be here for hours.and she is deaf.I have to' yell at her to make myself heard.I have asked her to wait while I am so busy and sometimes it does work. [Hatley]
I find it really difficult trying to be on the computer and hold a conversation at the same time. Normally, it just makes me screw up both, because I can't concentrate on either task. I normally end up having to say what a gazillion times and have to read/look at what I was doing on the computer again and again. Eventually, I just kinda look at them and say "You know I'm not actually listening to a word you say, right?", which normally gets a bit of a laugh and they'll leave me alone. Sometimes, though, I'll stop and we'll chat because what I'm doing can wait until later. On the other hand, when I'm doing something that needs my attention, I just tell them to go away. And I mean that quite literally, lol! [addicted2cola]
hi addicted2cola yes you are so right,sometimes I just throw in a word and at times it works but sometimes it does not make sense. she will say oh that's not' right and I want to laugh, as I had had no idea what she said in the first place. [Hatley]
Hi Hatley, I have the solution you need and it's so simple, ear plugs. Failing that a gag for her. Honestly I don't know how you manage having to share a room with someone not of your choosing. Isn't there a nice elderly gentleman there you could try fixing her up with to get her out of the way. Failing that just invent something contagious to get her out of the way [thea09]
hi thea way to go, if only I could just break out,he he he 'ah yes a nice old gentleman that would be good . just think maybe I would be all alone, sob , sob.sob.But the ear plugs I have to put in'at bed time as she still talks until she jabbers herself to sleep. [Hatley]
I try my best to stay calm, although I sometimes do get grumpy. I also try not to do anything all that important to me when I am being talked to where I need to reply. Otherwise I get myself into trouble when Shelly says "what do you think?" and I have no clue what she was talking about lol [fwidman]
oh fwidman I just did that today.I would answer oh that'crys good, 'or yes that is just great, or oh that is funny then she spoke' up and said,that wasn't funny,why are you laughing? And to tell the truth I did not know what she had saId, not really.[ [Hatley]
Hi Hatley I have the same problem when I hubby is home he will start talking about anything while I am on the computer trying to response and he just goes on and on till I have to stop doing doing what ever I was doing and listen to him, the only time I get any peace is when he has gone to bed or when he is at work. Hugs. Tamara [tamarafireheart]
hi tamara that's what I have been doing is doing the hardest 'things when she finally goes to sleep for awhile, otherwise it is such slow going and I did tell her I was not playing games, but doing this to make money to pay my internet bill and I dont think she really grasped that at all. oh dear.sadsadsad [Hatley]
My mother is one of those people that love to talk whenever I'm on the computer. Most of the time I'm not doing anything important but there are some times when I am busy and I just don't want to hear it. However, even if I ask her nicely she just gives me a hard time about the whole matter and won't let up. That really bugs me. I can't really do anything about it besides put in headphones or something to drown them out. [highflyingxangel]
hi I have been driven to do that lately as I do need' the money that I make on the net to pay my net bill. I dont mind if I am just reading my email but when I am mylotting and trying to make sense of things it makes me really really irritated.angryangryangry [Hatley]
Oh dear I do find that really annoying too! I don't mind it so much if I am doing something which is not work-related or doesn't require a huge amount of concentration but I cannot stand it if there is something which I am doing which is important to me and people want to keep talking! Ignoring such people doesn't help, they do not seem to get the hint! [UK_Shree]
hi uk shree oh it is so annoying and she is my roomie so I am stuck with it. if she would just stop once' in awhile so I could think it would not be quite so bad, but she keeps it up ad nausaem. but perhaps using earphones might work. I shall have to try it. [Hatley]
Get a headset, Mrs. Hatley! Put it on and she will think that you can't hear her and she may shush it! LOL! [Irishfrndly65]
hi irish oh good idea and I have a set ready at hand as I use them to listen to my mozart music at bedtime. would you believe she goes right on talking then as if I could hear her over a Mozart sonata, specially the violin ones. he he he hehappyhappyhappy [Hatley]
HAHAHHA "but that does not stop motormouth". Aw, dude. I know this feeling so well. It's almost like THEY JUST CAN'T GET THE HINT, "shut up" or "I'm really not listening to you". OK, soooooooooo WHENEVER I get on the computer, which isn't very often. I like to get into my stuff. I like to read carefully and view as much as possible, meaning STAY FOCUSED. My boyfriend, however thinks it's the time to gab about everything in life! LoL The only reason I get upset about it (sometime) is because when he is on the computer, I give him that respect. Whenever I do talk to him while he is doing his thing, he gets so mad about it, it's too funny. Double standard mister! Not cool. [busybren]
hi I am the same way I have to stay focussed so I can respong intelligently and comment with some sense, and make discussions that don't sound like a drunk person wrote them. so now she is using her own head phones so I am off the hook for awhile. goodie. [Hatley]
i would tell him/her to shut up [omni864]
hi omni864 I did do that once but it didnt really' do that much good, she is my roomie so I do have to live with her and get along with her too. In all other things she is pretty nice. [Hatley]
I managed a satellite sales office from my home for a number of years. During that time, my mother came to stay with me, and my best friend bought the house next door. Even though I had a separate room for working, people would just walk in and start talking. Now, some days it wasn't too busy, so that wasn't a problem. Other days I barely had 5 seconds between phone calls, and it was a huge problem. Whether I was busy or not, if they saw me, in their minds I was available. No amount of explaining worked. I finally solved the problem by purchasing some t-shirts with "DO NOT DISTURB" printed on the back. I wore them on the busy days so that they knew before launching into conversation, if I had the time to chat or not. Maybe you could do something like that? Or, invest in some good, noise-reducing headphones. [catdla1]
hi catdla1 I have a perfect set of headphones, so have phones will type, great idea and I shall have to use it to get my quota done this month for sure as i have an internet bill each month to pay,he he he. [Hatley]
Hi Hatley! I think that you should try to explain that being on the computer for you is not just a game and that you are sometimes doing important things on it. I would tell her that sometimes you need to concentrate because you are doing things like banking and when you are you just need some quiet time. And if this doesn't work then you need to tell her straight out that when you are on the computer to please not speak to you until you are finished! If that doesn't work either than just tell her she has a big mouth!lol [Opal26]
hi Opal yes I did yell at her that one day and for 'once she actually shut up after saying well I guess I shouldn]t talk and bother you. I wanted to say oh duh did you just figure that out. grrrr. [Hatley]
I would put headphones on, and pretend to be tuned in to the radio while online. And try to find her some other friends. Maybe dedicate a small period of time to her daily, since you live with her. [GardenGerty]
hi gardengerty I have been doing just that' lately as my son was here visiting so I talked to her a bit too. but she will not get the idea that I need peace and quiet to think and write intelligently. [Hatley]
I understand how you feel.. and as for me, what I do is to just ask that person to keep quiet as I am doing some work on the PC. I would normally be courteous in asking this person to do so. I know it's irritating when someone keep talking, while we try our best to concentrate in our work and finish it fastest possible. I also like to have some peaceful time myself while browsing the net. I can understand how you feel, and this person that talk non stop deserve some shout in order to make her know that you are in the midst of some important task.. I normally will ask the person, if they are convenient to talk, before I proceed.. and if I get those 'common' reply, I will then just keep quiet.. no fun just talking without any responses.. [cwong77]
hi cwong I have been patently ignoring her tonight as I wanted to get as much done as possible before going to bed.and I needed to be able to think with some intelligence.I dont think she really understands just what I am doing although I did explain it to her. [Hatley]
That gets on my last nerve because I work on my computer daily and people already know it. I cannot concentrate and work properly when someone is talking my head off. I usually do not work when I have company because they sit right here and stare at the screen while I work or they talk my head off and both distracts me. [stephcjh]
stephcjh hi yes it does really get on ones nerves and I think she knows it a little anyway.but she is very self centered and I think her sister has spoiled her to boot. [Hatley]
This happens to me almost on a daily basis. I will sometimes turn around and say, ok you have my attention now since I had absolutely nothing important to do anyways and most of the time that will either make that person mad or feel guilty for even bothering me. However, I only do this when I am really doing something of importance. [xsarleenax]
hi xsarleenax when I am reading my email she doesnt really bother me so much but when I am making responses or comments on others responses it really makes me get so irritated.maybe earphones may just be the real answer after all. [Hatley]
My husband the 'non-talker- does that to me often! Usually getting a conversation out of him is like pulling teeth unless he is in the mood to talk then he won't care that I am trying to write, he'll just sit next to me and start yakking. The worst thing, he sometimes does at our daughter's dancing class; he takes the paper with him to read while she is having her lesson and he will be really quiet until I decide to watch my child dancing; it will be then that he'll decide to show me something in the newspaper and insist I stop watching the dance and pay attention to him!angry I handle it with a glare that he know too well! The glare says. "Shut up, now, I will talk to you later..." [paula27661]
hi paula that reminds me when I went back to college, my husband couldnt understand that I had to write some papers for my English classses. He would talk and talk and talk again. but let me bother him when he was watching his favorite tv program and it was sh sh sh. he he he he.lollollol [Hatley]
Hi friend, Some will be their talking when we are busy with computer work.They never stop talking only. If they are talking non stop our work will be disturb.I don't like such peoples i will get a eritate when am busy my work don't disturb me. Any place some people will be talking non stop. Have a great day. [23uday]
hi 23uday wellat least right now she is listening to her headphones and not talking so maybe I can get caught up a bit with my discussions, and make a few responses also. here is hoping at least. [Hatley]
i have experienced this but i find it very difficult to say to someone to keep off,so i use the INVISIBLE FEATURE ON ,so that noone would know that i am online and i have the freedom to ccarry on with my work undisturbed. [riyasam]
hi riyasam well I am sort of doing that,but now she' is listening to her headphones so i am off the' hook for now. so I will take advantage of the time she is not talking to me to mylot. [Hatley]
Well one of those people who keep talking to me when i'm on the computer is my dear mother. She seems to have a problem every time I sit in front of my laptop. I think she purposely does it for laughs because I remember this one time I was playing call of duty 4 and she kept pestering me about how college was even though I told her like 15 minutes back. I got annoyed and pushed her out of the room. By the time I was back I was killed like 5 times over. I usually handle her by locking my door. But damn that spare key! [sybraton]
hi sybraton wish I could do that but she has no place to go unless there is a program going opn downstairs. so I will use headphones when she is not using hers and see what I can do. [Hatley]
I was told that it's the "over-communication" time today.We communicate too much today but we know little about what we are talking.Lots of nonsense we have to face.MSN,Email,kill much of our time or life.Why we can't just stop it!I do not like to spend much of my time to "play" MSN with my freind though it is useful tool for me.There is lot of work to be done for me on line every day.I do not want to be interrupted.And they know my habit.If he or she have lots of words to say,I will give them a phone call. [bearound]
hi bearound right now she is listening to her headphones hurray for that. I can work without being bothered and that is fantastic. I will get caught up here yet and go on to my next discussion. he he he he [Hatley]
i say use earphones and do work on your computer. neither will u hear them nor will u get disturbed [Ayoosh16]
ayhoosh yes I have used earphones and she talks right along but as you say now it does not bother me and I can get a few things done and that is so good. [Hatley]
i hate to be disturbed when i am in front of the computer. cause it takes away my concentration and my motivation to work online. and sometimes it takes away my joy in what i am doing. and it is hard to motivate our selves to be active online if there are always some who will interrupt. but i can't do any thing though cause i have lots of responsibilities and work at home and so i have to do those things and prioritize them than this online thing. [hotsummer]
hi hotsummer wellbelive it or not she is quiet right now heaven help me. I am getting a bit of mylotting done and it feels so good. My son put in a new browser for me, foxfire and that makes it a bit'easier 'and faster for me to work here. [Hatley]
AW that was very nice motormouth? i guess living with a person like that is not boring but you will lose your mind haha i don't think if i can survive if i have 1 of a person like that at home. [Desolator102688]
hi desolator I have found if I get out and attend some' of our functions here then go back to mylotting she seems to be a bit quieter. then again she seems turned on when she sees me boot up my computer. sadsadsad [Hatley]
Had you asked her to not talk to you while you're on the computer and she ignored you? Yelling at her was the only way left to get her attention! Some folks just don't respond otherwise -- maybe they don't realize you really mean what you say unless you yell. It's not easy living with a bunch of others in a facility! [joyceshookery]
hi joyceshookery yes I have but it does not stop her, 'and her sister hugged me the other day and told me what a patient good roommate I was. if she only knew' yet as I have heard her snap at Kathy at times,I guess she really does know. maybe that is why they are not keeping her at home with them. he he he he [Hatley]
first go about saying,"oh.. yeah... wow" and stuff like that... if they still dont stop then act as if the line isn't clear and play some music in the baground, as this will help you pretend to not be able to hear them [Akkster]
hi kkster I have done that and it works as long as I' have some faint idea of what she's babbling about but if I don't then I have a big problem.he hehe as she will say that's not true. why did you say that? [Hatley]
Yeah I have this happen to me almost everyday. I have learned to not get mad and what I tend to do is do PTC sites when someone is trying to talk non stop when I am online making money. lol I think more than likey the person is lonely and really does not understand that some people are online working and not just playing so to speak. lol I wanted to respond to this because I know all too well how you are feeling take care and happy mylotting to you. happyp [momtrying2makeit]
hi momtrying2makeit yes she is lonely and her sister does not come as often as she should. she will take 'her out to things and then I have some peace and quiet for several hours. If she would participate in some of the programs here she would be much happier. [Hatley]
I know it hasn't been easy for you Hatley, what about getting a headset for your computer. Put those one when you are on it and muffle the noise of this chatter box. Wish there was an easier solution, even if you don't have your sound on, at least you can muffle the sound of the continuous chattering. [kprofgames]
hi kprofgames yes I have been using my headphones at 'times and it helps but not completely. She just keeps on talking and talking. Maybe she just likes the sound of her voice. Even in the middle of the night she talks iof she thinks I am awake, but I have fooled her as I sleep with ear plugs in.he he he [Hatley]
My father is the perfect specimen of those kind of people. He talks and talks and talks and talks and... you get the picture. I never -really- had to tell him to shut up, but, after a while if the conversation tells me nothing I just zone out and focus on whatever I'm doing at the computer like if he isn't there... well, almost. [cmdr001]
hi cmdr001 yes I do that too,zone out and sometimes'I answere with a yes or no ,or thats too bad,or maybe a laugh, but the funny thing is I sometimes get the wrong response and 'she will say why are you laughing,that's not funny. oh oh I was'caught 'as I didn't know at all what she said. [Hatley]
LOL, sorry i know this thing annoys you a lot but it seems really funny to have such companion like miss motormouth. Well why don't you try to ask her to go out or something, then you start the conversation, talk as much as you want and DON'T let her say any single word. I believe she will feel uncomfortable and when she start to shout her objection that you don't let her show off her motormouth skill:p, that would be the perfect moment for you to remind her that you are annoyed with her talkative habit and not just annoyed, she also ruined some of your work. Don't yelled at her or scold her, it won't work since i believe she is immature yet in social relationship:) hope it works:) [genius_zelda]
genius zelda hi oh I did do that awhile back and she' just talked right over me, it was sort of funny and I laughed and that didn't do for her.She is really so self centered and I realize she has a lot of health problems but I have some of my own. she didnt much like it when' I went on to tell her about my problems.he he he hecrycrycry [Hatley]
I've got that before and ask if it can wait. Sometimes I can't concentrate on what I'm doing so I stop and give my son a little bit of attention. On occasion, he does get annoying, for me it was while grocery shopping the other day and I was ready to run out of the store and jump in the car and lock the doors....I lost track of what we needed and the amount I was adding up. Next time I go without him. Even if you have a desktop connected to the cable, I don't think it would matter, I go to my room, the front porch, the back yard and I get followed everywhere. I think sometimes it doesn't matter to him what he's saying, as long as he is saying something to get attention. [mzz663]
hi mzz663 oh yes I remember when my little girl used to follow me everywhere and her refrain was pick baby up. 'but I could never get cross with her as she had been' brain damaged at birth, and only lived to be eight. she was a sweetie' but she demanded almost constant care. My roomie is 79 but I think she has a few marbles missing as sometimes she just doesnt make good sense. I dont dislike her, she is sweet but she seems to need to hear herself talk all the 'time. [Hatley]
Hello my friend happy I would probably do the same thing you did, I find that really annoying, seriously do you not see me doing something here shocked when people don't use the computer they have no respect for those of us that do they just don't get it, they do see the computer could be as important as real life, I use to have people don't that to me all the time, they would say to me how can that be more important we are right here lol thats a computer it can wait shocked I know what its like my friend. [kitty42]
hi right now she is napping so I am typing away and no talking what a relief . she is a nice person when she doesnt start talking loudly while I type. I tried to explain to her about mylot but she doesn't hear too well so we have a time getting her to understand anything. [Hatley]
i don't find any problem nor difficulty dealing with that kind of person. i will directly tell her to leave me for a while because i am doing something urgent and important. i will advise her that it is an official time and and surely, we have another time for chatting. [moneymakingtoday]
hi moneymakikngtoday well I am not in an office situation but in a bedroom situation where we both have to live, 'so I cannot really tell her to get out,she would not have any place to go really. Otherwise your advice would be really perfect. [Hatley]
Oh yes, my friend does this to me. I have one eye on the computer while listening to and occasionally watching the TV. My friend comes over when my favourite shows are on and goes on and on about things he has already told me earlier (several times) or things that I have either no interest in or no knowledge of. It's so annoying. Sometimes I have to be rude (???) and ask him to let me watch/listen. But if a weather report comes on, he jumps up and tells me to shush so he can listen to the weather. [MsTickle]
angrythumbdownninja [Hatley]
Oh gosh Hatley.... (groan) my husband is like that. rolleyes He'll talk up a storm about this and that and the other as if I know what he's talking about and won't shut up even after telling him I don't know what you're talking about but ok, go do what ever you need to do I'M ON THE DAMNED COMPUTER TALKING TO SOMEONE and unless it's an emergency, LEAVE ME ALONE!! This is my DOWN time, GO!! He gets all bent out of shape and leaves with his tail between his legs but at least he leaves and leaves me alone for a little while. LOL [CatsandDogs]
hi catsanddogs well I do wish I could just say this' to her but she wont even participate in any of the 'activities here. she just stays up here and when she' sees me at the computer it seems to be her cue to talk 'and talk and read stuff to me from her paper,on and on 'and on.So she wouldn't have any place to go, and she is my roommate. [Hatley]
Yes, I have a similar problem with my husband. He plays video games and does not want to be disturbed when he is involved with his gaming, as it interferes with his concentration and makes him mess up. When I am trying to work on the computer, though, he feels the need to talk to me and ask me all kinds of questions about just about anything under the sun. If I stop what I am doing and give him my full attention, then he can't think of anything else to say. If I keep working, though, he says that I always ignore him for the computer.doh surrender [purplealabaster]
hi purple I went back to college when I was in my fifties and took a lot of english classes so had papers to write. right in the middle of typing the thing and trying to do my very best my husband is sulking and says I never have any time for him. now what the heck was I supposed to do? the paper was due the next day for heaven's sakes. [Hatley]